Hudson Valley Astrologer

Success is not necessarily an objective result. Yet holding onto subjective or personal values—what truly matters beyond wealth, awards, and titles—is an exceedingly difficult path in a world wired to prioritize social status and measurable accomplishments.

The apparent ‘failure’ of my first marriage was one of those pivotal moments that forced me to confront what I truly valued. At the time, I imagined myself as a hero to my two young children—a 3-year-old daughter and her 1-year-old brother—and threw myself into being a super dad. But looking back now, I see that this period wasn’t just about parenting; it was about transformation. My Saturn Return and Pluto transits marked a psychological death and rebirth. What seemed like failure at first became an opportunity to rebuild myself from the ground up.
I instinctively turned toward what mattered most: my kids. I bought a guitar and a bicycle—two tools that became lifelines during this time of reinvention.

Training for triathlons gave me structure and purpose when everything else felt chaotic. Waking up at 4:00 AM to train before getting my kids ready for daycare wasn’t just about fitness; it was about proving to myself that I could persevere through pain and find joy in discipline. Writing songs and recording demos reminded me of my creative spark—a part of myself I had neglected for years.
These pursuits didn’t just help me cope; they taught me resilience. They showed me that success isn’t about avoiding failure but about using it as fuel for reinvention.

However, there were limits to these diversions. Racing and music couldn’t pay the bills or provide the stability my children needed. I had to make hard choices—sacrificing some dreams in favor of conventional work at a bank. It was exhausting trying to stand with one foot in two canoes: one in creative pursuits that fed my soul, and one in a corporate world that drained it.

But even in those soul-sucking moments as a banker, I found myself asking bigger questions: Is this all there is? That question led me down another transformative path—into astrology and counseling. What began as curiosity became a calling, leading me to complete a Master’s Course in Astrology and Counseling. This work has helped me align my career with my deeper purpose: helping others discover their own dharma.

In hindsight, what seemed like failure—the end of my marriage—was really a turning point. It forced me to reevaluate everything: my priorities, my values, and even my definition of success. It set me on a path toward becoming not just a better father but also someone more aligned with who I aspire to be.

HVA

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